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#1 muppet

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Posted 06 September 2006 - 01:08 PM

Hey ... I'm sincerely looking for some honest opinions from mature men.

I'm no spring chicken. Was happily married 22 years.

Now 50 and pleased with my life ... also currently have this incredible mutual sexual chemistry with someone (nothing much :blush: has happened yet) .... and I really can't have sex with this man. Honestly goes against my faith. And besides, casual sex just makes me feel cheap and lousy. Made a promise to myself a long time ago that I wouldn't have sex again (maybe ever - if need be) unless I found the right, mutually respectful, loving, committed, caring relationship.

I really don't want to lose this man .... but is it even POSSIBLE to have a physically affectionate friendship and avoid sex? What's a woman to do in this situation? Does sex trump all else in the minds of men?

Any sincere male perspectives appreciated. Sorry to be so off topic, but I respect a lot of the men on this board.

M. :huh:

Edited by muppet, 06 September 2006 - 01:14 PM.


#2 Chilidawgz

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Posted 06 September 2006 - 01:11 PM

I don't have an answer for you but one of my favorite movies is "When Harry met Sally"...I think the movie addresses the question you pose.
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#3 vitaminm

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Posted 06 September 2006 - 01:18 PM

Hey ... I'm sincerely looking for some honest opinions from mature men.

I'm no spring chicken. Was happily married 22 years.

Now 50 and pleased with my life ... also currently have this incredible mutual sexual chemistry with someone (nothing much :blush: has happened yet) .... and I really can't have sex with this man. Honestly goes against my faith. And besides, casual sex just makes me feel cheap and lousy. Made a promise a long time ago that I wouldn't have sex again (maybe ever - if need be) unless I found the right, mutually respectful, loving, committed, caring relationship.

I really don't want to lose this man .... but is it even POSSIBLE to have a physically affectionate friendship and avoid sex? What's a woman to do in this situation? Does sex trump all else in the minds of men?

Any sincere male perspectives appreciated. Sorry to be so off topic, but I respect a lot of the men on this board.

M. :huh:


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#4 securelstmile

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Posted 06 September 2006 - 01:20 PM

This is a girl opinion but I must say this is not off topic. Men are just like stocks. Find one that others are underestimating but you know is quality, stay away from the glitter and the glam because those guys are like bubble stocks with no earnings (sometimes literaly.) If you get a good one hang on just stay with it/him even if one of those fast movers catch your eye. Always stay true to who you are, you are either cut out to be a day trader or you aren't. If you are more the long term investor type being a day trader will just kill you.
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#5 IndexTrader

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Posted 06 September 2006 - 01:24 PM

Always stay true to who you are, you are either cut out to be a day trader or you aren't. If you are more the long term investor type being a day trader will just kill you.


In light of this, I'd say the male population is full of daytraders. :lol:

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#6 Sentient Being

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Posted 06 September 2006 - 01:24 PM

It sounds to me as if you should be communicating this information to him. Sometimes with guys you have to say things more than once and sometimes you have to make it very very clear!
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#7 dasein

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Posted 06 September 2006 - 01:27 PM

From an oil and gas trader board (so you understand the mindset) - 1. Sex is a beauty treatment. Scientific tests find that when women make love they produce amounts of the hormone estrogen, which makes hair shine and skin smooth. 2. Gentle, relaxed lovemaking reduces your chances of suffering dermatitis, skin rashes and blemishes. The sweat produced cleanses the pores and makes your skin glow. 3. Lovemaking can burn up those calories you piled on during that romantic dinner. 4. Sex is one of the safest sports you can take up. It stretches and tones up just about every muscle in the body. It's more enjoyable than swimming 20 laps, and you don't need special sneakers. 5. Sex is an instant cure for mild depression. It releases endorphins into the bloodstream, producing a sense of euphoria and leaving you with a feeling of well-being. 6. The more sex you have, the more you will be offered. The sexually active body gives off greater quantities of chemicals called pheromones. These subtle sex perfumes drive the opposite sex crazy! 7. Sex is the safest tranquilizer in the world. IT IS 10 TIMES MORE EFFECTIVE THAN VALIUM. 8. Kissing each day will keep the dentist away. Kissing encourage saliva to wash food from the teeth and lowers the level of the acid that causes decay, preventing plaque build-up. 9. Sex actually relieves headaches. A lovemaking session can release the tension that restricts blood vessels in the brain. 10. A lot of lovemaking can unblock a stuffy nose. Sex is a natural antihistamine. It can help combat asthma and hay fever. This message has been sent to you for good luck in sex. The Sex Fairy will visit you within four days of receiving this message provided you, in turn, send it on. If you don't, then you will never receive good sex again for the rest of your life. You will eventually become celibate, and your genitals will rot and fall off. This is no joke! Send copies to people you think need sex (who doesn't?).
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Posted 06 September 2006 - 01:27 PM

Hey ... I'm sincerely looking for some honest opinions from mature men.

I'm no spring chicken. Was happily married 22 years.

Now 50 and pleased with my life ... also currently have this incredible mutual sexual chemistry with someone (nothing much :blush: has happened yet) .... and I really can't have sex with this man. Honestly goes against my faith. And besides, casual sex just makes me feel cheap and lousy. Made a promise to myself a long time ago that I wouldn't have sex again (maybe ever - if need be) unless I found the right, mutually respectful, loving, committed, caring relationship.

I really don't want to lose this man .... but is it even POSSIBLE to have a physically affectionate friendship and avoid sex? What's a woman to do in this situation? Does sex trump all else in the minds of men?

Any sincere male perspectives appreciated. Sorry to be so off topic, but I respect a lot of the men on this board.

M. :huh:





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#9 securelstmile

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Posted 06 September 2006 - 01:29 PM

Always stay true to who you are, you are either cut out to be a day trader or you aren't. If you are more the long term investor type being a day trader will just kill you.


In light of this, I'd say the male population is full of daytraders. :lol:

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Yeah, you think women are better at the long term and men short term. It is like watching T.V. with a guy too. They are always changing the channel, they can't even commit to a T.V. show for one hour.
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#10 colours

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Posted 06 September 2006 - 01:31 PM

A relationship WITHOUT sex ??? You're kidding , right ?? If a man wants a buddy , he gets himself a dog.