HELP - Need honest mature male perspective. Way off topic.
#31
Posted 07 September 2006 - 11:34 AM
#32
Posted 07 September 2006 - 12:01 PM
As I re-read this thread , I am wondering if you are suffering from a loss of libido caused by menopause. It's normal for many women to lose thir sexual desire in their 50's due to starting menopause . I am assuming you are not taking prescription anti- depressants ( such as paxil ,etc.) which also can cause loss of libido . Men and women view most everything differently because of our genetic /hormonal structure . Accept that fact and learn to work with it ( and not try to fight it ) and you will be happier in your dealings with the opposite sex .
Sorry friend, but you are WAY off track here ... nothing at all wrong with my libido. Am certainly not depressed and even if I was, I despise pharmaceutical drugs .... would never take that approach, and I mean NEVER. I find it interesting that so few people understand the moral angle to casual sex. Call me old fashioned ... don't care. Each to their own. Whatever works for YOU.
Yes, some women lose their sex drive, but that is not my issue (thank goodness!). I'm going to TALK to my man (think that was the best advice offered here) ... and we will work something out. I'm optimistic (and dare I say, horny).
Best to you, M.
Edited by muppet, 07 September 2006 - 12:10 PM.
#33
Posted 07 September 2006 - 03:23 PM
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#34
Posted 07 September 2006 - 07:02 PM
Edited by mbradley, 07 September 2006 - 07:03 PM.
#35
Posted 08 September 2006 - 08:21 PM
#36
Posted 11 September 2006 - 09:05 PM
But your question will be debated for eternity.
Here is the best way to sum it up:
Men's brains:
Women's brains:
Edited by Rogerdodger, 11 September 2006 - 09:15 PM.
BIGGEST SCIENCE SCANDAL EVER...Official records systematically 'adjusted'.
#37
Posted 14 September 2006 - 09:44 AM
Made a promise to myself a long time ago that I wouldn't have sex again (maybe ever - if need be) unless I found the right, mutually respectful, loving, committed, caring relationship.
I know you're asking men, but I thought I'd toss in my $.02:
I respect your decision to devote your sexual energy to someone worthy of it.Good for you.
But the questions arise in the back of my head-- "What if he doesn't have the same sexual values? What if sex to him is just a way of getting to know if you're the rtight woman for HIM?" You'd better hash these ideas out long before you think of jumping in the sack IF it's really important to you that you be in a committed realtionship first.
And you'd better be honest with him about what your goals and sexual mores are ASAP or you're setting yourself up for a short, unproductive relationship based on misunderstanding.
Good luck.
#38
Posted 23 September 2006 - 04:51 PM
http://soundstruesto...t/aw00222d.html
of course, my simple version about what actions and behavior sustain love/genuine intimacy:
"love is patient, kind and forgiving"
I completely agree with Dudette's thoughts.
this book/tape is also thought provoking for examining the way we relate to our mate and why:
http://soundstruesto...t/af00971d.html
almost everything this guy writes is useful to our awareness and can be put into practice:
http://soundstruesto...t/aw00560d.html
Personally, I believe growth and health in loving ourselves and others stems from: awareness, gratitude, and compassion
Edited by hiker, 23 September 2006 - 04:58 PM.
#39
Posted 24 September 2006 - 02:43 PM
Edited by muppet, 24 September 2006 - 02:52 PM.
#40
Posted 24 September 2006 - 06:32 PM
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